Thanks for the great post… I haven’t dated for many years, but you write so well about your interesting life that I look forward to your tales. I especially appreciate your honesty. Often I listen to the AI Voice read posts (to free myself for other things while I listen) so I vote “yes” to the longer posts. It’s like a mini-podcast 😊
Ha thanks! I listen to most Substacks on 2x speed so I’m all about audio. Thankfully I now also haven’t dated for many years. 🤣 I do not miss it. 🤪 Thank you so so much for reading. 🫶🏻🤩
"Maybe with this lovely, powerful, impressive man by my side, I’d get to rest a little. Maybe I could stop working three jobs and just work, you know, one job. I wouldn’t have to worry about living expenses either. Everything would just be so much easier." This is the key. I suppose many women think this is how it's supposed to feel. I thought that too until I realised all those things that would make me happy (a nice job, treats, a roof over my head...) have nothing to do with a man. And that, if those depended on a man, then I depended on a man too and that would not make me happy at all.
You’re so wise and I’m glad you realised that well before I did. I didn’t realise this was what I was doing at the time, of course. I was swept up and in love but when you “build” those foundations they aren’t solid. And the life I’ve built with my second husband — together — I have way more autonomy and freedom and choice (as I’ll write about) and it was a completely different experience. Partnership really is key. I mean some women are happy with this setup but it really does create an unequal and tenuous power dynamic. Thanks for reading as always, lovely. 🫶🏻❤️
That's why sisterhood and telling each other stories are important things. I'm glad you are creating a safe and authentic place for you to thrive and write and connect with others
Omg I’ve never seen that comic about studying English lit before. So good. And great piece. Agree with others here that the authenticity and vulnerability makes them all such good reads.
I love the long posts and your writing. It’s scary how much of this to relate to! 😂 Thank you for sharing your life.
Omg thanks so much. 🤩 Best comment ever! 🫶🏻 It’s lovely to have those connection moments with people all around the world. 😘🙏🏻
Thanks for the great post… I haven’t dated for many years, but you write so well about your interesting life that I look forward to your tales. I especially appreciate your honesty. Often I listen to the AI Voice read posts (to free myself for other things while I listen) so I vote “yes” to the longer posts. It’s like a mini-podcast 😊
Ha thanks! I listen to most Substacks on 2x speed so I’m all about audio. Thankfully I now also haven’t dated for many years. 🤣 I do not miss it. 🤪 Thank you so so much for reading. 🫶🏻🤩
"Maybe with this lovely, powerful, impressive man by my side, I’d get to rest a little. Maybe I could stop working three jobs and just work, you know, one job. I wouldn’t have to worry about living expenses either. Everything would just be so much easier." This is the key. I suppose many women think this is how it's supposed to feel. I thought that too until I realised all those things that would make me happy (a nice job, treats, a roof over my head...) have nothing to do with a man. And that, if those depended on a man, then I depended on a man too and that would not make me happy at all.
You’re so wise and I’m glad you realised that well before I did. I didn’t realise this was what I was doing at the time, of course. I was swept up and in love but when you “build” those foundations they aren’t solid. And the life I’ve built with my second husband — together — I have way more autonomy and freedom and choice (as I’ll write about) and it was a completely different experience. Partnership really is key. I mean some women are happy with this setup but it really does create an unequal and tenuous power dynamic. Thanks for reading as always, lovely. 🫶🏻❤️
That's why sisterhood and telling each other stories are important things. I'm glad you are creating a safe and authentic place for you to thrive and write and connect with others
Omg thank you 😭🫶🏻
Omg I’ve never seen that comic about studying English lit before. So good. And great piece. Agree with others here that the authenticity and vulnerability makes them all such good reads.
Thank you so much! 😭🫶🏻
Oh and obviously Lit majors are like rockstars! 🤣🤩