Awesome post!! I'm too old to have dated in the era of mobile phones!! But I still miss my attention span. It's not just aging that has turned my brain to mush! xoxo
My first husband bought me my first smart phone! So I only got to date with apps after my divorce and when I met Michael! 🤣 I was so useless I couldn’t get Tinder to work. So I resorted to the only website — OkCupid — that I’d used in my pre-smartphone dating and apparently it was a very weird niche site to Brits! Which fits exactly with my quirky husband so worked out. 🤪🙈
And ha! No! Our brains are just having rewired neural networks thanks to our addictive boxes. It really is not to do with aging. 😘😘😘 I bet we are all full of anecdotes from times pre-smartphone. 😅 I love yours now with the smartphone! 🤩🥰
It must feel so quaint to younger gens that we had no dating apps. Funny to think that people used personal ads (not me - too risky!!) The whole scene is so different, but it seems like younger people are worried more and more about online dating. My daughter doesn't like the idea of going on apps anymore. Would love to meet someone in a work context or through a friend!
I have heard that some apps have a bad rep now and basically people just use them for hookups so that’s not great for young people. Also have a friend who said her uni age daughter doesn’t date and is still a virgin e en though she wants a boyfriend they’re all too anxious. 😭
I am amazed there is someone who remembers those days: when we met people through friends, when we could read books for more than a few minutes, when we remembered phone numbers. Actually, I think I am one of the original online dating population, but it was, as you said, stigmatized, like a "you must be so lame to look for someone online" kind of vibe. So it's surprising that nowadays it is mainly through online dating.
Thank you for the delightful post and a chance for a walk down memory lane.👍💕
Omg you reminded me of how many phone numbers and addresses I had memorised in my brain! 🤣🤣🤣 now my husband’s mobile phone number isn’t even in my head! 🙈😭 yet I still remember all my childhood phone numbers, my uni mobile, and my uni student ID number. 🤪
Wow, I do not remember any of my previous phone numbers. Oh, I remember one thing, though, my Korean ID number. I learned the other day that some Korean Americans don't remember that. 😉
Every Korean person has an ID number they get assigned when their parents report their birth. I had no reason to use it for the last twenty years but I still remember it. Somethings never go away from your memory. 🤭
Personally, I do not remember it fondly, I was addicted to it, costing too much in my life. Kind of an embarrassing chapter in my life. (For a guest post, I am open to it. Let me know. 😉👍)
Awesome post!! I'm too old to have dated in the era of mobile phones!! But I still miss my attention span. It's not just aging that has turned my brain to mush! xoxo
My first husband bought me my first smart phone! So I only got to date with apps after my divorce and when I met Michael! 🤣 I was so useless I couldn’t get Tinder to work. So I resorted to the only website — OkCupid — that I’d used in my pre-smartphone dating and apparently it was a very weird niche site to Brits! Which fits exactly with my quirky husband so worked out. 🤪🙈
Well it's certainly true that all's well that ends well in this case!!!
I bet you’d have some very fun tales too if you’d ever love to guest post? 🤔 always optional and time dependent 😘🥰
No I'm the worst for dating tales!! Very boring!! You need spicy!!
And ha! No! Our brains are just having rewired neural networks thanks to our addictive boxes. It really is not to do with aging. 😘😘😘 I bet we are all full of anecdotes from times pre-smartphone. 😅 I love yours now with the smartphone! 🤩🥰
It must feel so quaint to younger gens that we had no dating apps. Funny to think that people used personal ads (not me - too risky!!) The whole scene is so different, but it seems like younger people are worried more and more about online dating. My daughter doesn't like the idea of going on apps anymore. Would love to meet someone in a work context or through a friend!
I have heard that some apps have a bad rep now and basically people just use them for hookups so that’s not great for young people. Also have a friend who said her uni age daughter doesn’t date and is still a virgin e en though she wants a boyfriend they’re all too anxious. 😭
It's true! And it's all because of their phones. Sigh...
I am amazed there is someone who remembers those days: when we met people through friends, when we could read books for more than a few minutes, when we remembered phone numbers. Actually, I think I am one of the original online dating population, but it was, as you said, stigmatized, like a "you must be so lame to look for someone online" kind of vibe. So it's surprising that nowadays it is mainly through online dating.
Thank you for the delightful post and a chance for a walk down memory lane.👍💕
Omg you reminded me of how many phone numbers and addresses I had memorised in my brain! 🤣🤣🤣 now my husband’s mobile phone number isn’t even in my head! 🙈😭 yet I still remember all my childhood phone numbers, my uni mobile, and my uni student ID number. 🤪
Wow, I do not remember any of my previous phone numbers. Oh, I remember one thing, though, my Korean ID number. I learned the other day that some Korean Americans don't remember that. 😉
Do Korean Americans get assigned a number as well? I also remember my US social security number. 😅
Every Korean person has an ID number they get assigned when their parents report their birth. I had no reason to use it for the last twenty years but I still remember it. Somethings never go away from your memory. 🤭
Did you successfully meet anyone back in the day of “stigmatised” online dating? I’d be curious to read what that was like? Guest post? 🤔
Actually, I just uploaded a post about that experience last weekend.
https://steelmakersdaughter.substack.com/p/episode-32-train-ticket
Personally, I do not remember it fondly, I was addicted to it, costing too much in my life. Kind of an embarrassing chapter in my life. (For a guest post, I am open to it. Let me know. 😉👍)
Oh amazing! I want to work through all your chapters so will bookmark to read later. Your writing is beautiful. 🥰🫶🏻🙏🏻
Thank you. Let me know what you think later. 💗
Before I even read it if you’re open to a guest post, I’d love it. 🥰 always good to get varied experience. 🙏🏻🫶🏻
I’m also doing little love stories once a month so you could do that too, maybe? 200 words on how you met your husband. 🥰
Let me think about it, Elaine. I am planning to take some break in July from my post, so I might have some free time to work on yours. 😉